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“What are YOU?” Black, White, Other?

By Sevgi Fernandez 

 

“What are you?”

The question that’s been on repeat since I burst into this world

A little caramel girl who would grow up with the weight of two worlds

“What are you?”

I’m LOST between two worlds at war with one another

I’m lost between two worlds that made me, yet neither will claim me

 If I listen to you………

I’m too light, 

like I’ve blinded u with my high yellow ass

I’m too dark, 

like the pit of your soul

I must be uneducated, unemployed, and unloved

I must be stuck up, a sell out and all the above

If I listen to you I,”talk like a white girl”
Yet my “white girl speech” doesn’t erase the melanin in my skin 

What are u?

Mexican, Puerto Rican, Hawaiian?

I must be black….no I must be white….no no that’s right,

I’m other.

I’m so tired of the labels

I’m so tired of you trying to find out what I am so you can decide whether I’m worth your respect

What am I?

I’m a mother…a daughter… .a sister….

What am I? 

I am done with the labels, the stereotypes, the games

No longer will my self worth be determined by your shame 

I am the bridge between two worlds 

Not black….white…..other

But

Black….White……Together 

I am Found, no longer bound by the fear and ignorance that surrounds 

No longer will I take the bait to hate myself because u fear what I am and what I will become

I am found

I am found



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http://www.kennyonline.net


Unite Against RacismBreaking Down Walls and Building Community

  
Challenging Racism and Islamophobia

Join us for the second in our three part series Unite Against Racism: Breaking Down Walls and Building Community; Challenging Racism and Islamophobia.Given the growing divide along racial and religious lines in this country and globally, we will focus this seminar on examining where the breakdowns in communication and understanding are occuring specifically between blacks/whites and Muslims/Non-Muslims. Sevgi Fernandez of Together We Stand and Dr. John P. Fernandez of ARMCGlobal, global leaders on racism, sexism and diversity training, will be facilitating. The emphasis will be to create GolbalTREE, Trust, Respect, Empathy, Ethics, through a multifaceted approach using individual and group exercises.

Please RSVP to Diversewc@gmail.com, we will be emailing attendees an exercise to do prior to the workshop.
Register now, space is limited!!!

Unite Against Racism: Breaking Down Walls and Building Community

When

Saturday, Jan. 23rd 2016 at 2:30-5:30pm

Where

2930 Shattuck Avenue Berkeley, CA
Agenda
Welcome – Introductions

Individual – Group Exercises

Break

Documentary

Group discussion

Closing – personal commitments to change

Western Institute for Social Research

Since 1975 WISR, the Western Institute for Social Research, has been a multicultural academic institution of higher learning devoted to social change and community improvement. WISR, is a community-based, globally connected degree granting institution of higher learning. WISR’s students can earn Bachelor’s, Master’s and Doctoral degrees in a variety of disciplines related to community improvement and leadership, educational innovation, counseling psychology, and progressive social change.

2930 Shattuck Avenue, Berkeley, CA, United States Mail@wisr.edu 510 655-2830 wisr.edu

Advanced Reaearch Management Consultants

Advanced Research Management Consultants Global, LLC– is a full service human resources, executive coaching, diversity, mentoring, marketing, e-learning and video production firm. We specialize in assisting organizations realize their competitive advantage on a local and global scale.

ARMC Global develops and delivers seminars in such areas as leadership, global virtual teams, teambuilding, communications, generation gap, GLBT (gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender), work and life balance, cultural clashes, conflict resolution, Proactive Inclusion® and GlobalTREE℠ (Trust, Respect, Empathy, and Ethics).

701 West Allens Lane, Philadelphia, PA, United States JPF@Globaltree.com 215 247-4547 armcglobal.com

Sevgi Fernandez – Together We Stand – Diverse World Coaching

Diverse World Coaching specializes in working with blended, cross-cultural and interracial families as well as individuals struggling with racial identity formation, anxiety and depression.

Together We Stand advocates for victims of racism, discrimination and police brutality across the country. We are developing a youth leadership academy that will train participants to become social change agents and prepare them to enter college with an excellent foundation in social justice advocacy.

Together We Stand also offers the following workshops:

Racism and White Privilege

Parenting Mixed Race Children: Understanding their Racial Identity Development 

Navigating the Blended Family

Youth Empowerment through Community Action

Richmond, CA, United States diversewc@gmail.com

Colorism: Light-Skinned African-American Women Explain The Discrimination They Face

 Jan 13, 2014 | Updated Jan 23, 2014
OWN

 

On a recent episode of “Oprah’s Lifeclass,” Iyanla Vanzant joined Oprah to discuss the issue of colorism, the prejudices people can face based on the lightness or darkness of their skin tone. While many understand colorism as the discrimination against darker-skinned African-Americans, two of Oprah’s lighter-skinned audience members surprise Iyanla with the colorism discrimination they face as well.

Though one of the women has seen first-hand how some of her darker-skinned family members are treated, she says that she, too, struggled with discrimination. “Being a light-skinned girl, you get called names,” she tells Iyanla. “You get called ‘lite-brite,’ you get called ‘high yellow,’ ‘redbone.’ This is a reality every day.”

Having longer hair or lighter skin, she continues, makes others in her community assume she thinks she is prettier than them — something she says simply isn’t true. “You’re alienated from your own people. You’re never black enough,” she says. “But we’re still black in America. None of us feel advantaged.”

 Iyanla finds this prejudice against lighter-skinned black women very interesting. “Both the dark and the light are experiencing the same thing at different ends of the spectrum,” she says before turning to the woman who had shared her story. “You got insulted by being called ‘high yellow’ or ‘redbone,’ but somebody [darker] being called a ‘coon,’ a ‘jiggaboo,’ and a ‘monkey,’ –

“We’re called that too,” another light-skinned audience member interrupts. “We’re called ‘coon’ and ‘jiggaboo’ and all those same things too. We’re still called that on top of ‘light bright’ and all those other things.”

“So the outside world that sees you as just a black person heaps the black stuff on you and then within the community, you get it,” Iyanla says. “Wow.”

Also in the video, one of the audience members explains the only way she believes real healing can begin, prompting Iyanla to give Oprah a “tweetable moment.”

For video- http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/4588825

Racist’s Fear

Interracial Couples Share The Appalling Things People Have Said To Them

Via Buzzfeed. Donna Pinckley photographs interracial couples and writes the negative comments they have been subjected to underneath. posted on Oct. 8, 2015, at 11:51 a.m. Matthew Tucker BuzzFeed Picture Editor, UK Two years ago, photographer Donna Pinckley took a portrait of a young woman with her African-American boyfriend. Afterwards, Donna chatted with the subject’s […]

http://whatweseee.com/2015/10/11/interracial-couples-share-the-appalling-things-people-have-said-to-them/

The Importance of Continuing Racial Dialogue

One dimensional discussions about race at Fordham continue to spread the belief that “racism does not exist anymore.”

http://fordhamram.com/2015/09/23/the-importance-of-continuing-racial-dialogue/

Workshop: Unite Against Racism

  
Unite Against Racism

Breaking Down Walls and Building Community

It Begins and Ends With Us!!

Join me for the first in a 3 part documentary/discussion series examining and dismantling Racism. Whites and People of Color see race from radically different perspectives. We will explore our individual biases and how they impact our choices and impact our community. Through individual, group and interactive exercises we will increase understanding transforming fear into knowledge and that knowledge into the power we need to eradicate racism and oppression. It’s imperative that all People of Color come together as ONE community to challenge the system of racism and oppression that this country has been built upon. It’s also crucial that our white allies join in this movement. These seminars are meant for everyone, regardless of your racial, socio/economic, religious or political background. You don’t even have to agree with the movement. What’s essential is that we dialogue face to face in a respectful environment where we can build understanding.

Saturday, Nov. 7th, 2:30-5:30pm

2930 Shattuck Avenue, Suite 300 Berkeley

AGENDA

  • Welcome
  • Documentary: The Conversation 
  • White People on Race
  • My Black Son
  • Growing up Black
  • Individual and Group Exercises
  • Discussion: We will analyze the polarization between blacks and whites in the U.S., with an in depth look at the raw realities on both sides. 

Diverse World Coaching
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El Cerrito, CA, United States 

diversewc@gmail.com 

1(628)333-9830

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Thank You!!!!!

  

Trump’s White America

  
By Sevgi Fernandez

Donald, Donald, Donald…..

Where shall I begin. 

Just when I think you can’t get any more offensive, you prove me wrong. The only thing I like about you is that you’ve for all intents and purposes turned the republican presidential race into a circus show. So for that, I thank you. It’s been entertaining to watch Jeb squirm.

Let’s get back on track though shall we? So far you’ve managed to offend pretty much every group in the U.S. except white males. Let’s examine a few of your winning statements:

  • They’re sending people that have lots of problems, and they’re bringing those problems to us. They’re bringing drugs.They’re bringing crime. They’re rapists. (Mexicans)
  • And some, I assume, are good people!(Mexicans)
  • They’re sending us not the right people. It’s coming from more than Mexico. It’s coming from all over South and Latin America, and it’s coming probably from the Middle East.
  • I have great respect for Mexico and love their people and their peoples’ great spirit. 
  • Anchor Baby

Stereotype much? Well, at least you assume some Mexicans are good people, and thank you for letting us know you have great respect  for Mexico; I think we may have missed that had you not cleared it up for us……

“Sadly the American dream is dead. But if I get elected president, I will bring it back bigger and better and stronger than ever before and we will make America great again.”

Really Donald? You’ll bring it back bigger and better and stronger for who? The Mexican Americans, the African Americans, the Muslims, the Chinese Americans, women? I’m guessing NO. I do however think the right wing, KKK, gun toting, wealthy whites would absolutely see an America that’s better for them.

When reporter Jose Ramos attempts to press you for substantive answers regarding your mass deportation plan, you tell him to “go back to Univision” and have him escorted out.

When people start chanting “White Power” and executing hate crimes inspired by your rhetoric, you conveniently “aren’t aware” of it….

Pretty disturbing, that you avoid questions about deporting millions and turn your back when your racially biased platform rallies the support of radical white supremists. This is definitely not the type of person to be leading a meeting, much less a country in which the white majority will be gone in the next few decades!

We see and hear more and more white,right wingers shouting:

“Get out of my country!” 

“Go back to where you came from!”

I am here to offer you poorly educated, ignorant folks a bit of history. Unless, you are Native American, you and your family are the immigrants! Donald Trump’s family immigrated here from Germany and Scottland and two of his three wives are 1st generation immigrants. I suppose Donald Trump’s children could be deemed “anchor babies” if we are going by his rules…Oh, I forgot, those rules don’t apply to white Europeans….

Here is my suggestion, why don’t we give Trump a parcel of land similar to what was “given” to the Native Americans. We can go ahead and call it a reservation. All those who fall into the following categories can live there:

  • KKK
  • Racist Whites of a lesser degree, but who still hate people of color
  • Anyone who uses the phrase “go back where you came from”
  • Tea Party 
  • Ignorant bigoted rednecks 

Once there, they can elect Trump as their president and he is WELCOME  to build his wall around their land. In fact I’d dare say, many of us would help him build it.

So again, just so we are clear and I might spend a little less of each day moving forward attempting to educate the ignorant:

  • This is not your” country
  • You will soon be the minority
  • Please please read a history book!

One more thing, you already are the minority when it comes to state of mind. The love, acceptance and knowledge we share will always triumph over your hate and ignorance.

Sources:

  1. 1http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/55dce43ee4b08cd3359dc41a?
  2. http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/8052424
  3. Terry Krepel Founder and Editor, ConWebWatch.com; former senior editor, Media Matters
  4. http://genealogy.about.com/od/famous_family_trees/p/trump.htm
  5. http://www.commondreams.org/further/2015/08/25/donald-trump-will-make-country-great-again-going-full-racist-when-brown-skinned

The White Man’s Fear

This is dedicated to those that live and spread hate. 

  

 By Sevgi Fernandez 

Fear
Do u even see it?

That black cloud that is us creeping ever so slowly over the whiteness that is your palace of hate

Fear

It makes you close your eyes, cover your ears and shout “Animals!” as we wait at the gate, our truth in the words we shout at your deaf, dumb ears

Your self appointed pedestal of white domination is dripping red with the blood of our brothers and sisters

Your hatred weeps like blisters, the salve our tears, our pain

Who are the savage beasts?  The monsters with their trigger happy fingers pointed straight at our sons, our brothers, our fathers!

You reap what you sow….

Fear

Your fear of a multi hued world pressing in, taking over as your Tea Party, KKK club smolders

Your venom poisoning you from the inside

Go ahead and take that slippery ride of hate; far be it for me to berate 

You, massa, sir, whitey, cracker, human who bleeds just like me, don’t you see!

We meet your fear with strength 

Your hate with love

Your ignorance with knowledge 

We will march until the sound of our footsteps haunt every dream you dare to have

We will fight each day with every breath until our peace is had

Until Our justice is equal to your justice

Our pain equal to yours

Through the demise of your humanity we shall rise 

We meet your fear unabashed

With nothing to lose

And everything to gain


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