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“What are YOU?” Black, White, Other?

By Sevgi Fernandez 

 

“What are you?”

The question that’s been on repeat since I burst into this world

A little caramel girl who would grow up with the weight of two worlds

“What are you?”

I’m LOST between two worlds at war with one another

I’m lost between two worlds that made me, yet neither will claim me

 If I listen to you………

I’m too light, 

like I’ve blinded u with my high yellow ass

I’m too dark, 

like the pit of your soul

I must be uneducated, unemployed, and unloved

I must be stuck up, a sell out and all the above

If I listen to you I,”talk like a white girl”
Yet my “white girl speech” doesn’t erase the melanin in my skin 

What are u?

Mexican, Puerto Rican, Hawaiian?

I must be black….no I must be white….no no that’s right,

I’m other.

I’m so tired of the labels

I’m so tired of you trying to find out what I am so you can decide whether I’m worth your respect

What am I?

I’m a mother…a daughter… .a sister….

What am I? 

I am done with the labels, the stereotypes, the games

No longer will my self worth be determined by your shame 

I am the bridge between two worlds 

Not black….white…..other

But

Black….White……Together 

I am Found, no longer bound by the fear and ignorance that surrounds 

No longer will I take the bait to hate myself because u fear what I am and what I will become

I am found

I am found



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Unite Against RacismBreaking Down Walls and Building Community

  
Challenging Racism and Islamophobia

Join us for the second in our three part series Unite Against Racism: Breaking Down Walls and Building Community; Challenging Racism and Islamophobia.Given the growing divide along racial and religious lines in this country and globally, we will focus this seminar on examining where the breakdowns in communication and understanding are occuring specifically between blacks/whites and Muslims/Non-Muslims. Sevgi Fernandez of Together We Stand and Dr. John P. Fernandez of ARMCGlobal, global leaders on racism, sexism and diversity training, will be facilitating. The emphasis will be to create GolbalTREE, Trust, Respect, Empathy, Ethics, through a multifaceted approach using individual and group exercises.

Please RSVP to Diversewc@gmail.com, we will be emailing attendees an exercise to do prior to the workshop.
Register now, space is limited!!!

Unite Against Racism: Breaking Down Walls and Building Community

When

Saturday, Jan. 23rd 2016 at 2:30-5:30pm

Where

2930 Shattuck Avenue Berkeley, CA
Agenda
Welcome – Introductions

Individual – Group Exercises

Break

Documentary

Group discussion

Closing – personal commitments to change

Western Institute for Social Research

Since 1975 WISR, the Western Institute for Social Research, has been a multicultural academic institution of higher learning devoted to social change and community improvement. WISR, is a community-based, globally connected degree granting institution of higher learning. WISR’s students can earn Bachelor’s, Master’s and Doctoral degrees in a variety of disciplines related to community improvement and leadership, educational innovation, counseling psychology, and progressive social change.

2930 Shattuck Avenue, Berkeley, CA, United States Mail@wisr.edu 510 655-2830 wisr.edu

Advanced Reaearch Management Consultants

Advanced Research Management Consultants Global, LLC– is a full service human resources, executive coaching, diversity, mentoring, marketing, e-learning and video production firm. We specialize in assisting organizations realize their competitive advantage on a local and global scale.

ARMC Global develops and delivers seminars in such areas as leadership, global virtual teams, teambuilding, communications, generation gap, GLBT (gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender), work and life balance, cultural clashes, conflict resolution, Proactive Inclusion® and GlobalTREE℠ (Trust, Respect, Empathy, and Ethics).

701 West Allens Lane, Philadelphia, PA, United States JPF@Globaltree.com 215 247-4547 armcglobal.com

Sevgi Fernandez – Together We Stand – Diverse World Coaching

Diverse World Coaching specializes in working with blended, cross-cultural and interracial families as well as individuals struggling with racial identity formation, anxiety and depression.

Together We Stand advocates for victims of racism, discrimination and police brutality across the country. We are developing a youth leadership academy that will train participants to become social change agents and prepare them to enter college with an excellent foundation in social justice advocacy.

Together We Stand also offers the following workshops:

Racism and White Privilege

Parenting Mixed Race Children: Understanding their Racial Identity Development 

Navigating the Blended Family

Youth Empowerment through Community Action

Richmond, CA, United States diversewc@gmail.com

Colorism: Light-Skinned African-American Women Explain The Discrimination They Face

 Jan 13, 2014 | Updated Jan 23, 2014
OWN

 

On a recent episode of “Oprah’s Lifeclass,” Iyanla Vanzant joined Oprah to discuss the issue of colorism, the prejudices people can face based on the lightness or darkness of their skin tone. While many understand colorism as the discrimination against darker-skinned African-Americans, two of Oprah’s lighter-skinned audience members surprise Iyanla with the colorism discrimination they face as well.

Though one of the women has seen first-hand how some of her darker-skinned family members are treated, she says that she, too, struggled with discrimination. “Being a light-skinned girl, you get called names,” she tells Iyanla. “You get called ‘lite-brite,’ you get called ‘high yellow,’ ‘redbone.’ This is a reality every day.”

Having longer hair or lighter skin, she continues, makes others in her community assume she thinks she is prettier than them — something she says simply isn’t true. “You’re alienated from your own people. You’re never black enough,” she says. “But we’re still black in America. None of us feel advantaged.”

 Iyanla finds this prejudice against lighter-skinned black women very interesting. “Both the dark and the light are experiencing the same thing at different ends of the spectrum,” she says before turning to the woman who had shared her story. “You got insulted by being called ‘high yellow’ or ‘redbone,’ but somebody [darker] being called a ‘coon,’ a ‘jiggaboo,’ and a ‘monkey,’ –

“We’re called that too,” another light-skinned audience member interrupts. “We’re called ‘coon’ and ‘jiggaboo’ and all those same things too. We’re still called that on top of ‘light bright’ and all those other things.”

“So the outside world that sees you as just a black person heaps the black stuff on you and then within the community, you get it,” Iyanla says. “Wow.”

Also in the video, one of the audience members explains the only way she believes real healing can begin, prompting Iyanla to give Oprah a “tweetable moment.”

For video- http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/4588825

Racist’s Fear

Interracial Couples Share The Appalling Things People Have Said To Them

Via Buzzfeed. Donna Pinckley photographs interracial couples and writes the negative comments they have been subjected to underneath. posted on Oct. 8, 2015, at 11:51 a.m. Matthew Tucker BuzzFeed Picture Editor, UK Two years ago, photographer Donna Pinckley took a portrait of a young woman with her African-American boyfriend. Afterwards, Donna chatted with the subject’s […]

http://whatweseee.com/2015/10/11/interracial-couples-share-the-appalling-things-people-have-said-to-them/

The Importance of Continuing Racial Dialogue

One dimensional discussions about race at Fordham continue to spread the belief that “racism does not exist anymore.”

http://fordhamram.com/2015/09/23/the-importance-of-continuing-racial-dialogue/

Workshop: Unite Against Racism

  
Unite Against Racism

Breaking Down Walls and Building Community

It Begins and Ends With Us!!

Join me for the first in a 3 part documentary/discussion series examining and dismantling Racism. Whites and People of Color see race from radically different perspectives. We will explore our individual biases and how they impact our choices and impact our community. Through individual, group and interactive exercises we will increase understanding transforming fear into knowledge and that knowledge into the power we need to eradicate racism and oppression. It’s imperative that all People of Color come together as ONE community to challenge the system of racism and oppression that this country has been built upon. It’s also crucial that our white allies join in this movement. These seminars are meant for everyone, regardless of your racial, socio/economic, religious or political background. You don’t even have to agree with the movement. What’s essential is that we dialogue face to face in a respectful environment where we can build understanding.

Saturday, Nov. 7th, 2:30-5:30pm

2930 Shattuck Avenue, Suite 300 Berkeley

AGENDA

  • Welcome
  • Documentary: The Conversation 
  • White People on Race
  • My Black Son
  • Growing up Black
  • Individual and Group Exercises
  • Discussion: We will analyze the polarization between blacks and whites in the U.S., with an in depth look at the raw realities on both sides. 

Diverse World Coaching
Facebook @SevgiCoach

El Cerrito, CA, United States 

diversewc@gmail.com 

1(628)333-9830

diverseworldcoaching.wordpress.com

RSVP

Space is Limited! It is essential you RSVP by phone or by sending me an email. Please leave Name/Email and the number of people you would like to bring.

Thank You!!!!!

  

The White Man’s Fear

This is dedicated to those that live and spread hate. 

  

 By Sevgi Fernandez 

Fear
Do u even see it?

That black cloud that is us creeping ever so slowly over the whiteness that is your palace of hate

Fear

It makes you close your eyes, cover your ears and shout “Animals!” as we wait at the gate, our truth in the words we shout at your deaf, dumb ears

Your self appointed pedestal of white domination is dripping red with the blood of our brothers and sisters

Your hatred weeps like blisters, the salve our tears, our pain

Who are the savage beasts?  The monsters with their trigger happy fingers pointed straight at our sons, our brothers, our fathers!

You reap what you sow….

Fear

Your fear of a multi hued world pressing in, taking over as your Tea Party, KKK club smolders

Your venom poisoning you from the inside

Go ahead and take that slippery ride of hate; far be it for me to berate 

You, massa, sir, whitey, cracker, human who bleeds just like me, don’t you see!

We meet your fear with strength 

Your hate with love

Your ignorance with knowledge 

We will march until the sound of our footsteps haunt every dream you dare to have

We will fight each day with every breath until our peace is had

Until Our justice is equal to your justice

Our pain equal to yours

Through the demise of your humanity we shall rise 

We meet your fear unabashed

With nothing to lose

And everything to gain


Stereotypes and Biases – Cultural Weapons for Domination

  

By Dr. John P Fernandez 
Although a person’s biases and stereotypes depend on their own unique experiences, at ARMC Global we define concepts like racism, sexism, ethnocentrism, and homophobia as cultural ideologies that characterize the dominant group as being inherently superior to non-dominant groups. People in dominant or in-power groups, through societal institutions, develop, spread, and enforce the myths and stereotypes that are the foundation for their dominant social, economic, and political position. These views become ingrained in the minds not only of the oppressors but also of the oppressed.

Concepts like racism and sexism are cultural. For example, males from certain cultures are more likely than males from other cultures to consider themselves superior to women. However, we can find examples of stereotyped or biased thought in nearly every culture, in all parts of the world: many Japanese citizens perceive Koreans as inferior to them; some light-skinned people from countries such as Brazil, India, and China believe they are superior to the darker skinned people; in Northern Ireland there are still great divides between those of different religions; many men in Middle Eastern countries like Saudi Arabia believe women to be inferior and in a surprising number of societies this inferiority is still formalized by the legal system; and black males in the United States are still perceived as dangerous by the mainstream, predominantly white society, and even by some blacks, as the Trayvon Martin case illustrated. If stereotypes are not challenged, they can quickly become widespread beliefs, eventually turning into society’s norms.

Another unfortunate trend found throughout the world is that the people who believe and adhere to these types of thoughts are often in positions of power and are thus able to develop and enforce the stereotypes that serve as the foundation for their positions of authority in the first place. Often these negativities are not necessarily a matter of personal beliefs or attitudes, but rather accessory expressions of institutionalized patterns within social, economic, religious, and political systems. Whether personal or not, these beliefs have been used to maintain and justify the elite’s social, economic, and political positions, which have also become rooted deeply in the structure and fabric of our societies.

The power struggle between dominant groups who seek to maintain their positions and the outside groups who seek to change the status quo stands at the center of the problems we face today. The fear of losing dominance drives these groups, whether consciously or unconsciously, to nurture myths and stereotypes about the outside groups. When looked at carefully, displays of bias are simply defense mechanisms most often used by the dominant to deal with their own insecurities. These mindsets can be changed, but if they are not, the oppressed groups also start to believe these stereotypes, which compound their psychological stresses. By accepting and internalizing racist, sexist, religious, fascist, homophobic, and ethnocentric assumptions, the oppressed groups can explain and justify their subordinate societal position, making it even harder for them to break through these constructed barriers. This dynamic plays out in much of the world today.

​While racism, sexism, extreme ethnocentrism, homophobia, and religious intolerance fragment groups within a nation, xenophobia can bind a country’s major ethnic groups together through fear and hatred of all things foreign. Many people do not view our current political leanings toward xenophobia as negative. For example, some consider the American Tea Party a valid and important political organization, but further examination reveals it should be more accurately classified as a xenophobic movement in the United States. It seems to have an insidious implicit bias against non-whites, immigrants, non-Christians, LGBT individuals, and anyone they perceive as “un-American.” These kinds of ideologies are not exclusive to the United States. In Moscow, young Russian males have taken to attacking people who look physically non-Russian in attempts to “preserve” their country. Additionally, the Chinese minority population of Malaysia, many of whom are often financially successful, is often scapegoated for their country’s difficult economic situations, and at times even brutally attacked. Finally, even Israel, surrounded by enemies and characterized by centuries of oppression, can turn on those who are considered different, as the recent attacks on dark-skinned and immigrant Jews attest.  

These types of xenophobia contribute to nationalism and isolationism. The ideas inspire and justify bloody ethnic and religious struggles, as well as unfair immigration laws. The degree and extent of xenophobia in a country often parallels its economic and social status. As economies slow down, as traditional social networks break down, and as the nature of cultures change as a result of ongoing and rapid globalization, xenophobia increases. Instead of accepting and adapting to these changes and challenges, many cultures look for a scapegoat, and they find one in “the other.” A society often convinces itself that minorities, foreigners, nonbelievers, and “alien” cultures are destroying the old order, ruining the economy, or compromising the traditional way of life. While it is true that many oppressed groups internalize and believe in these negative impressions, we can also see that some respond with hatred and violence.

​While hatred and violence should never be tolerated, it is possible to trace the reasoning behind this reaction, and the ultimate cycle of stereotyping that it creates. In the face of a dominant majority, those who are oppressed and excluded often feel powerless; despite attempts at contributing to or uniting with society, they are often deemed unfit. Their social status is threatened and their innate sense of competition reminds them of the potential effects of such threats: isolation and estrangement. With few alternatives, violence becomes a subjectively expressive means (or even an end in itself), for it creates clarity in unclear situations.

Further compounding this dynamic is the disconnected nature of modern life and the breaking down of family structures and kin groups. Opportunistic, morally bankrupt politicians, religious leaders, and business leaders have fanned the latent fires of xenophobia throughout the world. Many countries are increasingly susceptible to these trends because of increases in freedom and mobility and a weakening of family ties. And so, while entire groups of people are programmed to distrust or exclude other groups of people, it is the individual alone who must bear the risks of failure. When we analyze this information it becomes clear how the cycles of hatred, violence, and discrimination are perpetuated.

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